I finally got everything working and moved everything from sandbox/forum to /forum with wordpress being in the root folder...then i hacked all that back together again getting rid of the sandbox in a bunch of files and got the wordpress side working again, but now it doesn't log me into vanilla when i click the discussion button, although thanks to janine, it did create a matching post

i changed my cookie domain to '' and my cookie path to '/' and that didn't work either

i saw on another post here someone edited wp-settings from

if ( !defined('COOKIEPATH') )
define('COOKIEPATH', preg_replace('|https?://[^/]+|i', '', get_option('home') . '/' ) );

to

if ( !defined('COOKIEPATH') )
define('COOKIEPATH', '/' );

and that didn't work either...anything else I can try?

Thanks in advance...almost ready to launch :)

Ok I think I'm going to wipe my database out and reinstall everything and reintegrate...hopefully since i did it already it doesn't take more than a few hrs...